Many times in our most important relationships we can find ourselves stuck in repetitive ways of interacting. Struggling with the same argument, same distance, same pain, as we have felt months and years before. In many ways this is normal, all relationships have their cycles. And yet, it can leave us feeling lost, lonely, and desperate to breathe fresh air.

Couples therapy can be a crucial piece in discovering new ways of relating to our spouse. Healthier productive arguments, increased romance, intimacy that can begin to feel healing. When working with couples I attend to two major parts of how they are functioning. First, is the communication. Which words are used when, and how are they used. Second, deeper aspects of how we relate to ourselves and others that contribute to our relational dynamics with our partner. With these two pieces we can create a space in which we form new ways of relating, and set the foundation for a strong base together.